Respect Personal Space
Some grieving individuals may not be ready for physical contact like hugs. Gauge their comfort level before initiating any physical gestures.
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Taking Pictures Without Permission
With almost everyone having a camera on their mobile device, it's become a habit to capture the moment and post to social media. It is insensitive to post pictures of someone's funeral without special permission.
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Don't Be Late
Arriving late disrupts the flow of the ceremony and can be a distraction to the family and other guest who are trying to focus on their grief and support for the family.
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Saying Insensitive Things
Be careful with your words! Express your sympathy to the grieving family members. A simple, "I'm sorry for your loss" or a heartfelt condolence message goes a long way in offering comfort. When in doubt, give them a card and pray for them.
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Inappropriate Humor
Don't Overshare Personal Stories
While sharing stories and memories of the deceased is appropriate, avoid oversharing personal anecdotes that might make others uncomfortable. Keep your remarks short and uplifting.
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Things Not To Say To Someone In Grief
-You’ll get through it, be strong.
-He brought this on himself, it was his fault.
-She’s in a better place.
-It’s been a while, aren’t you over her yet?
-He lived a long time, at least he didn’t die young.
-God must have wanted her there because she was such a good person.
-You’re young. You can always have another child.
-I know exactly how you feel.
-I guess it was his time to go.
-Everything happens for a reason, life goes on.
Remember, grieving the loss of a loved one is the worst pain someone can endure. Be respectful and polite. Don’t discount anyone’s feelings. Even if someone puts on a brave face and looks like he or she is handling it well, don’t assume that person is. Show that you care.
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Wearing An Improper Outfit
Following proper funeral etiquette begins before you even arrive. As such, wearing improper outfits can be perceived as disrespectful to the deceased person and their family.
Be sure to dress appropriately, and don’t do anything too bold or attention-grabbing. It’s respectful to the family members and other mourners to wear attire that reflects the solemnity of the service and/or what the family has requested of you to wear. This will allow everyone to focus on paying their respects and offering condolences.
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During The Ceremony
During the funeral ceremony it is important to conduct yourself in a subtle and respectful way;
-Arrive early, ten to twenty minutes prior to the start time.
-Turn off your phone or put it on silent. If it rings, do not answer it during the service.
-Keep conversations to a minimum when you are inside the venue.
-Don’t eat or drink during the funeral service.
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"2 Minute" Remarks
If you feel the need to speak, be respectful of the time. If the family wanted you to sing, preach or pray, they would have personally asked you. This is not your time to shine.
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Processing to the Cemetery
A funeral procession, also known as a funeral cortege, is a traditional and RESPECTFUL way to send your loved one off on their final journey. Usually, the funeral procession's lead vehicle must obey all traffic lights and signs. The rest of the funeral procession can continue without stopping once it has legally passed through an intersection. Just make sure you still practice extreme caution while doing so.
Please do NOT take it upon yourself to try and stop traffic. Follow the directions of the funeral representatives so that we can travel together safely.
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